Options Why Oh Why? with Andrea Silenzi: Playlist from September 24, 2014 Options

Andrea Silenzi speaks with friends, experts, guys in bars, and her own Grandma Phyllis about where love and sex meets technology.

On WFMU (Info) | 91.1, 90.1, 91.9 FM & wfmu.org
WFMU LIVE Audio Streams (Get help):   Pop-up  |  128k MP3  |  32k MP3  |  24k Real  |  24k Windows

iTunes Feed Also available as an MP3 podcast. More info at our Podcast Central page.

<-- Previous playlist | Back to Why Oh Why? with Andrea Silenzi playlists | Next playlist -->


Options September 24, 2014: #38 - Is This Forty?

When your friends start getting married, it's just a matter of time before your friends start getting divorced. But what does dating after a divorce look like? I speak with my 40ish friend "Ted" about how quickly he got back into the game. Then, I'm joined by a 40ish friend-of-a-friend who has hired a professional matchmaking service (actually, two) to help him date more efficiently.

Listen to this show: | Add or read comments

Artist Comments Approx. start time
  When your friends start getting married, it's just a matter of time before your friends start getting divorced. But what does dating after a divorce look like? I speak with my 40ish friend "Ted" about how quickly he got back into the game. Then, I'm joined by a 40ish friend-of-a-friend who has hired a professional matchmaking service (actually, two) to help him date more efficiently.   
Andrea & "Ted"     
Andrea & Guy Who Hired a Matchmaker    0:33:06 ()

Listener comments!

Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 9/24/14 7:03pm Greg from Bloomfield:

Oh, divorced friends. I have more and more of those every day.
Avatar Swag For Life Member Wed. 9/24/14 7:09pm northguineahills:

I waited until I was 38 to get married, I remember like it was last Friday... (b/c it was...)
  Wed. 9/24/14 7:11pm r i s k y:

TED: How to date at 30 lol
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 9/24/14 7:11pm chris:

congrats, ngh!
Avatar Swag For Life Member Wed. 9/24/14 7:12pm northguineahills:

danke, chris!
Avatar Swag For Life Member Wed. 9/24/14 7:12pm Ange:

Congrats NGH! I think waiting until 38 is genius.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 9/24/14 7:12pm chris:

I was 43 when i got married... of course my wife and I already had a 13yo son and had lived with each other for nearly 20 years.. friggin' hippies.
  Wed. 9/24/14 7:13pm Jaifra:

I knew it was a competition with his wife
  Wed. 9/24/14 7:13pm r i s k y:

HE WANTS TONS OF ASS!!!!
Avatar Swag For Life Member Wed. 9/24/14 7:15pm northguineahills:

We were together for 7 years, so, it was time. I'm still friends w/ my long term gfs from my past, where no drama occurred, and they're friends w/ my wife.
Avatar Swag For Life Member Wed. 9/24/14 7:15pm Ange:

@Chris - also smart! @Jaifra - yeah, ugh, they're still living together, too.
  Wed. 9/24/14 7:20pm Trans~ally:

What type of emotional connection was Ted unable to have with his ex-wife that made her feel she had to look for it outside the marriage. Would Ted be able to provide that to his potential partners, or is that something he can not offer a woman, his wife, or any woman?
  Wed. 9/24/14 7:28pm Trans~ally:

? Two, if that is true about how Ted views older women's comfort levels with their bodies, why is Ted choosing to date women ten years younger than himself?
Avatar Swag For Life Member Wed. 9/24/14 7:28pm Ange:

She met another guy, and left him for that other guy.
Avatar Swag For Life Member Wed. 9/24/14 7:36pm northguineahills:

Could be all of the above, or maybe both parties changed. (don't knock a good bj).
  Wed. 9/24/14 7:40pm r i s k y:

This dude can't 'git r done'... (Thumbs down)
  Wed. 9/24/14 7:42pm oks:

dont take me wrong, bj are awesome! that guy on the other hand not so much
Avatar Swag For Life Member Wed. 9/24/14 7:48pm northguineahills:

you're right, oks, his attitude borderlined on narcissistic.
Avatar Swag For Life Member Wed. 9/24/14 7:48pm northguineahills:

..that said, we didn't hear from the other party's POV.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 9/24/14 7:49pm Greg from Bloomfield:

Three date schedule, guaranteed sexual intercourse on dates 2 and 3.
  Wed. 9/24/14 7:54pm oks:

its easier to be honest and say "i just wanna get laid"
Avatar Swag For Life Member Wed. 9/24/14 7:59pm northguineahills:

Good fun, thanks Andrea!
  Wed. 9/24/14 7:59pm Trans~ally:

If she cheated, it is definitely his "I just wanna get laid or get BJ's" revenge syndrome. But, if it takes two people to create a problem, and the problem goes unaddressed, the next relationship carries the weight of that problem too. Which would suck for the unsuspecting newcomer.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 9/24/14 8:00pm Greg from Bloomfield:

Thanks, Ange!
  Wed. 9/24/14 8:08pm oks:

it would suck for the unsuspecting newcomerS...he is dating 20 women... the more the merrier...
  Wed. 10/1/14 8:00pm GroWings:

Artist and song title of what played before the 3am messages to Leena please! I caught a little bit of it.. I was really enjoying the female vocals.
  Wed. 5/20/15 5:55pm oaklandlistener:

Does "Ted" not sound like another Why Oh Why guest with disguised voice...?
  Mon. 4/11/16 5:18pm AV:

yay! finally an epp for me. am 45 and separated, newly into the digital dating pool. much of ted's talk rings so true, especially about the attitude change that happens after ending a marriage. what we're looking for, how liberating and natural it is to cut to the chase quickly. hoping to hear more from ted, or at least this older age-appropriate POV. no, really, +40ers on e-dating sites, we are legion! (and we like to hear our voices in dating podcasts.)
Post a comment!
Name:
Email address
(optional, not public):
Your comment: (No HTML, please)

<-- Previous playlist | Back to Why Oh Why? with Andrea Silenzi playlists | Next playlist -->

RSS feeds for Why Oh Why? with Andrea Silenzi: RSSPlaylists feed | RSSMP3 archives feed

| Email the Program Director | Other WFMU Playlists | All artists played by Why Oh Why? with Andrea Silenzi |

Listen on the Internet  |  Contact Us  |  Music & Programs  |  WFMU Home Page  |  Blog  |  Support Us  |  FAQ

Live Audio Streams: Flash  |  128k MP3   |  32k MP3  |  20k Real  |  20k Windows

(C) 2017 WFMU. Generated by KenzoDB, (C) 2000-2017 Ken Garson